You had an argument with her – what’s the way forward?
Dear Young King,
There’s nothing humanly wrong with backing down from an argument you have with your girlfriend, but there is everything wrong when you continually compromise yourself to ‘keep the peace’ with the understanding that she’ll withhold intimacy (the love care emotional and physiological support) as a result of you holding your ground.
This means that she initiates it and that gives her more power and makes her the controlling party. Listen, No woman’s intimacy is ever worth that compromise because in doing so you devalue your own worth to her. She should know that as her guy you will call out her inconsiderate behaviour, and atimes correct her because that’s what a bridegroom does. You groom your bride – woman. For Christ’s sakes its simple English Bride Groom!
Otherwise, once this precedent is set, she will progressively have less respect for you – and for some reason she will break the rule repeatedly because its in human nature to take an extra mile when given liberty, to taste the limits. She will do exactly the opposite of the popular conception that she’ll appreciate your compromising for her and reward you for this. You will turn out to become a bitter young man because we all eventually recent what we place on a pedestal.
This is the reason King Xerus had to punish Vashti partly she had disobeyed a King and it comes with consequences that the elders couldn’t let her go scoot free.I believe that was the challenge with the first man Adam! He was there while eve was picking the forbidden fruit! He would have slapped her hand and warned her over what the creator – God said but nay he just lay there and to add salt to the injury, he equally had a fair share of the fruit ! Now we are in this mess.Gist of all the verbosity is the narrative that continually compromising yourself to ‘keep the peace’ is a scam. You’re a leader and that means you will have to make hard decisions sometimes. You’re her groom and grooming atimes isn’t pleasurable atimes.
