Peter Pan Syndrome
Psychologists in the manosphere space have in recent years discovered a new syndrome that is common among men, named The Peter Pan syndrome. This name is birthed from the name of a fictitious comical childhood fantasy character known as Peter Pan. Simply put, the Peter Pan syndrome refers to a state where a man fails to grow into adult life and keeps exhibiting child-like behaviours such as failure to take on responsibility or not owning up to their actions.
In a society that cherishes hard work and individual responsibility, this is not a morally acceptable alternative and if the father does not act, by chastising and disciplining his son properly, and put limit on the voluntary irrational adolescent expression of his son’s being he would have created a recipe for disaster. Failure to do so, he merely lets his son remain Peter Pan, the eternal Boy, King of the Lost Boys, Ruler of the non-existent utopia Neverland.This is an act that obviously interferes with the son’s freedom but in the long run will force him to take his place as a socialized acceptable member of the world because as much as many hate to accept this, it takes a man to raise a man out of a boy because manhood is deeper than a course unit taught in a university lecture room, it’s a compilation of life experiences.
Let’s shelf off this “Peter Pan Syndrome” and “Boy Crisis” debate with TV Host and American Author quote Dr. James Dobson “Mothers raise boys; fathers raise men. Boys are left in an island of confusion with no one to model for them the way out.” And I think he is right.
A few remarks for the men reading this. Let’s Aim up. Pay attention to detail as you get things right the first time for time is an expensive asset. Take responsibility for your mistakes, Fix what you can fix to the best of your abilities as you clean up your mess in life. Own up to your work regarding quality and timeliness. Keep your word!! If you promised to marry her Brother Marry her. Focus on one lady for its difficult to fulfil destiny with many ladies in sight if you doubt ask king Solomon.
For a man is as good as his word the old African saying goes . Don’t be arrogant in your knowledge, share it when they seek coaching and counsel for you went ahead for this sole purpose. Strive for humility as you seek coaching proactively. Become aware of your own insufficiency as a man—your cowardice, Achilles’ heel, malevolence, resentment, and hatred. Consider the short comings of your flesh for we are all a work in progress before you dare accuse others, and before you attempt to repair the fabric of the world. Maybe it’s not the world that’s at fault. Maybe it’s you. You’ve failed to make the mark. You’ve missed the target. You’ve fallen short of the glory of God and the world is in chaos because you haven’t laid your brick in making it a better place.
Like Best-selling author Dr JB Peterson says Consider that the alleviation of unnecessary pain and suffering is a good thing. Make that an axiom: to the best of my ability, I will act in a manner that leads to the alleviation of unnecessary pain and suffering…be compassionate to younger men as you reach out to them at the sight of seeing them “walking into walls” Its time you arose to this great responsibility before you for this is the Genesis of becoming a superior man.
